We have found that using the Re-Do tool in parenting works very well. It gives us a chance to correct playfully and gives them a chance to practice doing the right things. It doesn’t waste lots of time “telling” them or lecturing (which is totally a waste of time with children from hard places). It really can be a very positive and connecting moment.
Of course, it isn’t always – Re-Do is difficult to do if the child is “in the moment” (a.k.a. in a melt-down or emotional state). Better to help the child self-regulate and when they are calmer, try the Re-Do if you think it will go well.
And be careful about Re-Dos with teenagers – it can absolutely be done but be careful that it doesn’t come across as condescending or “treating them like a baby.” Teens generally don’t respond well when they think that is going on. And there are times when a Re-Do might feel humiliating. Food for thought – hope it helps!